Thursday, December 31, 2009
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Now it's four hours later, and I am lucky enough to be typing on a rigged up laptop since my motherboard is apparently shot so I'll be needing a new computer. Luckily, I haven't been here long enough to accumulate a bunch of stuff that makes it devastating to lose my computer. In fact, with the exception of all the time I had to waste this morning, I couldn't care less.
But anyway, instead of focusing on one thing I learned, I'm gonna to do a few and talk a bit less about what led me to each lesson. There are a couple reasons for this. One is that I want to spend tomorrow's blog on something fun. The other is that, quite frankly, the looking back takes a toll on me. And I swore I wouldn't let that happen anymore.
But here we go...
Lesson #3: Remember who is in control.
There is only one person who controls your life and that is you. If you're unhappy, it's because of you. If you're happy it's because of you. Now I'm not saying that in some cases, such as depression, there aren't other issues at play. There are. But it is up to you to deal with them and seek the help and treatment.
Lesson #4: You are not alone, nor should you be.
There is no new problem under the sun. No matter what is happening, someone else has been through it. If you choose to shut others out, you will regret it. When you're facing something, find others in your personal life that understand. Also, seek help of whatever type you think is needed. I needed the help of a personal therapist, a couple's therapist, and a psychiatrist before I could see out of the pit I was in. Some people do support groups and other things too. Seek any help you feel necessary and follow through.
Lesson #5: "Beware of who you listen to; Beware of who you believe" (borrowed from Greg Dulli)
During any given day, a person receives messages from a million different places. There are the things your friends, loved ones, co-workers, and other random people tell you. There are the things you hear from the media. But, most importantly, there are the things you tell yourself. You control what messages you believe and take to heart. Pay attention to the messages that are coming in and block the negative ones. Now this doesn't mean that, say if your boss tells you that you did something wrong, you just choose not to hear it. But it means that, in that same scenario, you hear that you made a mistake and not that your boss said you were incompetent and couldn't do anything right. There's a big difference there.
I would also say that, if you find a voice that is always negative or cruel or judgemental, get it out of your life in a hurry. Life is too short to spend it trying to change someone's mind. Surround yourself with voices of love and kindness (and of course give like in return) and you'll be surprised how bright the world can become.
Lesson #6: Sometimes you have to shut up and walk away.
Boy I learned this one the hard way. There are some things that can't be explained. There are some things that can't be fixed. Or even helped. If I could rewind time several months, I would rectify a mistake and shut my mouth and walk away. The truth will always come out, it didn't need my help. Instead I dug in and tried to "help". Instead, I shoulda walked away from the situation and taken care of myself and my life and let the parties involved work out theirs.
Anyway, life is always a live and learn thing. So hopefully someone will learn from this and not have to go through things the way I did.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
2 3/4 cups of flour
1 1/2 tsp baking soda
pinch of salt
2 sticks of butter
2 cups sugar
1 tsp vanilla
1 1/2 c defrosted frozen, sliced strawberries
1 cup champagne
1 stick butter, softened
8 oz cream cheese, softened
3 cups powdered sugar (sifted)
2 tbsp strawberry juice
Monday, December 28, 2009
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
2 cups butter
1 cup packed brown sugar
4 cups all-purpose flour
|1.||Preheat oven to 325 degrees F (165 degrees C).|
|2.||Cream butter and brown sugar. Add 4 cups flour gradually. Mix well.|
|3.||Roll to 1/2 inch thickness. Cut into 3x1 inch strips. Prick with fork and place on ungreased baking sheets.|
|4.||Bake at 325 degrees F (165 degrees C) for 20 to 25 minutes.|
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Monday, December 14, 2009
Sunday, December 13, 2009
1 1/2 cups butter, softened
2 cups white sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
5 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
|1.||In a large bowl, cream together butter and sugar until smooth. Beat in eggs and vanilla. Stir in the flour, baking powder, and salt. Cover, and chill dough for at least one hour (or overnight).|
|2.||Preheat oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C). Roll out dough on floured surface 1/4 to 1/2 inch thick. Cut into shapes with any cookie cutter. Place cookies 1 inch apart on ungreased cookie sheets.|
|3.||Bake 6 to 8 minutes in preheated oven. Cool completely.|
Friday, December 11, 2009
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Monday, December 7, 2009
Friday, December 4, 2009
3 (2 ounce) bars White Baking Chocolate, broken into
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
3/4 cup granulated sugar
2 large eggs
2 tablespoons water
1/8 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/3 cup butter, melted and cooled
12 Hershey's Candy Cane Kisses
|1.||MICROWAVE baking bars in medium, microwave-safe bowl on MEDIUM-HIGH (70%) power for 1 minute; stir. Microwave at additional 10- to 20-second intervals, stirring until smooth. Cool to room temperature.|
|2.||COMBINE flour, baking powder and salt in small bowl.|
|3.||COMBINE sugar, eggs, water and almond extract in large bowl. Add melted baking bars and butter; stir until smooth. Gradually add flour mixture. Pour into cupcake pans and push one Candy Cane Kiss into the center of each cupcake.|
|4.||BAKE in preheated 350 degrees F. oven for 20 minutes. As they cool, the cupcakes will probably sink in the middle a bit, but that's ok.|
1/2 cup butter
20 unwrapped Candy Cane Kisses
2 oz (roughly) white chocolate chips
1/2 pound confectioners' sugar
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/2 c whipping cream
|1.||Melt kisses, chips and butter in the microwave, or in the top of a double boiler. Mix in confectioners' sugar, vanilla and some cream.|
Once you're happy with the taste, put it in the fridge (I actually put mine in the freezer), let it cool completely, and then mix it again. If you need to add more of anything, you can. Mine was just right after it cooled.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
Marshmallow, or Seven Minute Frosting
2 large egg whites
1/2 cup sugar
1/4 cup light corn syrup
2 tablespoons water
1 1/2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
Combine frosting ingredients with a pinch of salt in a metal bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water and beat with a handheld electric mixer at high speed until frosting is thick and fluffy, 6 to 7 minutes. Remove bowl from heat and continue to beat until slightly cooled. Use frosting the day it is made.
9 ounces bittersweet chocolate, chopped
1 cup heavy cream
1 tablespoon dark rum (optional)
|1.||Place the chocolate into a medium bowl. Heat the cream in a small sauce pan over medium heat. Bring just to a boil, watching very carefully because if it boils for a few seconds, it will boil out of the pot. When the cream has come to a boil, pour over the chopped chocolate, and whisk until smooth. Stir in the rum if desired.|
|2.||Allow the ganache to cool slightly before pouring over a cake. Start at the center of the cake and work outward. For a fluffy frosting or chocolate filling, allow it to cool until thick, then whip with a whisk until light and fluffy.|